The Unspoken Truth: Lynching’s Always in Season…. No License Required

“I have seen a man hanged… now I wished I could see one burned.”

– An unnamed nine-year-old boy speaking to his mother.

“Back in those days, to kill a Negro wasn’t nothing.  It was like killing a chicken or killing a snake. The whites would say ‘Niggers jest supposed to die, ain’t no damn good anyway- jest go and kill them’.”

– Black Mississippian recalling white violence in the 1930’s.

“In those days it was ‘Kill a mule, buy another. Kill a nigger, hire another,’ and ‘They had to have a license to kill anything but a nigger. We was always in season’.”

– Black southerner (name unknown)

My Dear Readers,

Four weeks ago, I traveled approximately 2700 miles to Montgomery, Alabama to visit The National Lynching Memorial (also known by its formal name The National Memorial for Peace & Justice). The focus of my visit was to bear witness. Too often bearing witness is focused on one’s success or the value of one’s work, this was to bear witness to the atrocities people can commit.

The National Lynching Memorial was created by the Equal Justice Initiative (EJI) on a six-acre site in downtown Montgomery, Alabama. The memorial opened to the public on April 25, 2018. The memorial consists of 805 hanging steel rectangles, each the size and shape of coffins. Each of the hanging “coffins” represent each of the counties and their states where a documented lynching took place. More than 4075 documented lynchings of Black people took place between 1877 and 1950, with the majority being concentrated in 12 Southern states, though many did occur outside of the South.

In visiting The National Lynching Memorial, it was my intent to bear witness to acts of inhumanity. Whereas where others attempt to deny, evade, avoid, or distract… when one bears witness to something, it is the act of affirming the “something” or the actions exists, or “something” and the actions happened.

In bearing witness, being physically present, it was intended to extend the expression of love and respect to those who endured suffering, torture, and full awareness of their impending deaths at the hands of the rage of White violence. 

My act of bearing witness is intended to achieve three objectives:

  • Uncovering the truth about the action of lynching, the reasons, and justifications.
  • Discovering and sharing through bringing understanding with the intent to encourage dialogue.
  • Recovering and healing of the psychological wounds that continue via the transmission of intergenerational and transgenerational trauma

Uncovering the Truth

There is a falseness in the perceptions of what is a lynching.  The common misunderstanding is the theme that a lynching is “death by hanging”. The NAACP, a civil rights organization well experienced with lynchings, provided the follow definition:

 “A lynching is a public killing of an individual who has not received any due process. These executions were often carried out by lawless mobs, though police officers did participate, under the pretext of justice.”

Lynchings were violent public acts that White people used to terrorize and control Black people in the 19th and 20th centuries, particularly in the South.  Lynchings typically evoke images of Black men and women hanging from trees, but they involved other extreme brutality, such as torture, mutilation, decapitation, and desecration. Some victims were even burned alive.

An example of a lynching was in 1949, when Ernest Thomas was shot over 400 times by a mob of hundreds of white men while he was asleep under a tree in Madison County, Florida.  Two days after his death, coroner’s jury deemed it as “justifiable homicide”.

Lynchings in America were not isolated hate crimes committed by rogue vigilantes.  Lynchings were targeted racial violence perpetrated to uphold an unjust social order.

This era left thousands dead; significantly marginalized black people politically, financially, and socially; and inflicted deep trauma on the entire African American community.  White people who witnessed, participated in and socialized their children in a culture that tolerated gruesome lynchings also were psychologically damaged.

State officials’ tolerance of lynching created enduring national and institutional wounds that have not healed. Lynchings occurred in communities where African Americans today remain marginalized, disproportionately poor, overrepresented in prisons and jails and underrepresented in decision making roles in the criminal justice system.

Discovering and Sharing

Black lynching victims killed between 1877 and 1950 primarily died in the 12 Southern states, with Mississippi, Georgia, and Louisiana among the deadliest.  Several hundred additional victims were lynched in other regions including Michigan, Minnesota, Indiana, Wisconsin, and New York, with the highest numbers in Oklahoma, Missouri, Illinois, and West Virginia.

Some lynching victims were targeted for their efforts to organize Black communities for political and economic equality.  Others were lynched for refusing to address a White man as “sir” or demanding to be served at the counter in a segregated soda shop.  Hundreds were lynched based on accusations of offenses like arson, robbery, non-sexual assault, and vagrancy.  In a strictly maintained racial caste system, White lives and White property held higher value, while the lives of Black people held little or none.

Nearly 25% of African Americans lynching victims were accused of sexual assault and 30% were accused of murder.  Because African Americans were presumed guilty and dangerous, accusations lodged against them were rarely scrutinized.  Nearly all were lynched without an investigation, much less a trial. Efforts to pass federal anti-lynching legislation repeatedly failed because of opposition by Southern elected officials.  Only 1% of lynchings committed after 1900 led to a criminal conviction.

With no protection from the constant threat of death, nearly six million black Americans fled the South between 1910 and 1970.  Many left homes, families, and employment to flee racial terror as traumatized refugees.  Lynching profoundly reshaped the geographic, political, social, and economic conditions of African Americans today.

Recovering and Healing: The Impacts of Psychological Trauma via Transmission

There are two types of transmission: intergenerational and transgenerational.  In intergenerational trauma, the trauma gets passed down from those who directly experienced the traumatic incident while in transgenerational trauma, the descendants were not directly exposed to the incident.

African Americans continue to be impacted by generational trauma caused by extreme events, abuses, or prolonged periods of difficult times. Trauma is believed to pass from one generation to the next through genetic changes to a person’s DNA after they experienced trauma and continue to pass forward to a person’s offspring.

Concluding Statement: Psychological Trauma – The Elephant in the Room

Psychological trauma has permanence… meaning, the event, the incident or experience is permanently etched within the psychological self.  There are times in which the trauma incident, the elephant, screams loudly seeking attention. The response can be seeking support that would bring advocacy, balance, and calmness to those difficult times when intrusive thoughts and feelings could surface.

The horrors of the lynching era cannot be dismissed.  We do not have to live in the shadows of fear.  We can live in peace with full understanding of the past era.

My Dear Readers,

I hold no malice or hate in my heart.  I have taken from this holy site wisdom, understanding and concern as I continue to provide clinical psychotherapy to those impacted by psychological trauma.

May those who suffered so harshly, meeting death alone by the cold hearts of their fellow humans, now find rest and do so …peacefully.”

Strange Fruit Song by Billie Holiday

Southern trees bear a strange fruit

Blood on the leaves and blood on the root

Black bodies swinging in the southern breezes

Strange fruit hanging from the poplar trees

Pastoral scene of the gallant South

The bulging eyes and the twisted mouth

Scent of magnolia, sweet of burning flesh

Here is a fruit for the crows to pluck

For the rain to gather, for the wind to suck

For the sun to rot, for the trees to drop

Here is a strange and bitter crop.

(lyrics by Abel Meeropol)

Standing Alone…. The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: Our Children… Black, Brown and White – Understanding the Permanence of Trauma

“I can’t believe this.  This wasn’t supposed to happen. [I saw him] and 15 minutes later, my baby was gone. All because he was enjoying a race with some other kids.”

Brittani Frierson, mother of 10-year boy shot and killed by another 10-year boy, Sacramento CA. 01.03.24

“We are very strong …blue jay strong, Iowa strong… We will get through this …. because we have each other.  We are a unique both of blue jays….”

Unidentified person speaking at the vigil in the aftermath of the school shooting, Perry, Iowa. 01.05.24.

The Permanence of Trauma

Trauma does not go away by

Simply pushing it to the back of your …

mind.

It is a thief that lurks around until it

finds an open door.  It flashes. It

screams as it leaps into my soul.

It is a thief that steals in the day or in the…

night.

Enough is never enough.

It steals and steals and steals.

It plucks and sucks the life …slowly

From me.

(Dr. Micheal Kane)

My Dear Readers,

We are now in the beginning of the new year: 2024.  As we move forward there is intense shock impacting black, brown and white communities throughout this nation.

On January 3, 2024, in Sacramento, CA, a black boy, 10 years old, was shot and killed by another black boy.  The offense? The shooter was upset that he lost a bike race, retrieved a firearm from his father’s vehicle … shooting and killing the winner of the bike race.

On January 5, 2024, in Perry, IA, a 17-year-old student opened fire killing a sixth grader, wounding five others, and taking his own life. The incident occurred on the first day of students returning from their winter holiday break.

Our children are experiencing intense stressors.  It is a reality that psychological trauma can occur without notice, at any time and in any community. The intent of this writing is to provide the readership with a guide to conceptualizing and understanding trauma, its permeance and transmission.

And understanding what our children are responding to…as parents, family, friends, professionals, and community… it is important for them to know that we are all there to extend love… help…encouragement …and support.

Our Children: Black, Brown & White

It can be psychologically overwhelming for children across the country to be impacted either personally, through witnessing these horrible events and news reports, or with repetitive reviewing through social media.

There are several concerns to be addressed in this blog writing:

  • Understanding the differences in subtypes of psychological trauma
  • Recognition of symptoms and effects
  • Healing – The Identification of Responses & Self-Help Resources

Psychological Trauma

Psychological trauma is the one emotional and psychological construct that, regardless of social or cultural basis, has common themes for all groups: impacts, reactions, and responses.

There are three major main types of traumas: Acute, Chronic, and Complex

  • Acute trauma results from a single incident.
  • Chronic trauma is repeated and prolonged such as domestic violence or abuse.
  • Complex trauma is exposure to varied and multiple traumatic events, often of an invasive, interpersonal nature.

Permeance is defined as the condition or quality of being permanent, perpetual, or continual existence.  The clinical conceptualization of permeance is the property of being able to exist for an indefinite duration.  Therefore, intergenerational trauma and transgenerational trauma should be defined and differenced.

Trauma via Transmission: Intergenerational or Transgenerational

Generational trauma is caused by extreme events, abuses, or prolonged periods of difficult times.

Trauma is believed to pass from one generation to the next through genetic changes to a person’s DNA after they experience trauma. Furthermore, there is evidence that these genetic markers are passed on to a person’s offspring.

Features of Generational Trauma

  • Transmission of trauma
  • Psychological & Emotional impact
  • Cultural & Behavioral patterns
  • Epigenetic changes
  • Social & Economic disparities

Definitions and Differing Transmissions of Trauma

Intergenerational Trauma occurs when the effects are passed down between generations. Specifically, this transmission occurs when the original traumatic experience is transferred from parents to children, and then grandchildren and so on. This is thought to be a result of learned behaviors and alternations to the internal workings with the changes in the body due to stress.

Common causes of this form of trauma can include:

  • Domestic violence
  • Physical abuse
  • Sexual abuse

Transgenerational Trauma occurs when transmission is passed down to descendants who have not been directly exposed to the identified trauma.

Therefore, the difference is in intergenerational trauma, the trauma gets passed down from those who directly experienced the incident whereas in transgenerational trauma the descendants were not directly exposed to the incident.

Symptoms of Trauma: Intergenerational & Transgenerational

  • Lack of trust of others
  • Anger
  • Irritability
  • Nightmares
  • Fearfulness
  • Inability to connect with others.

The Effects of Intergenerational Trauma &Transgenerational Trauma

  • Shame
  • Increased anxiety
  • Guilt
  • Heighten sense of vulnerability
  • Helplessness.

Healing – Identification of Responses & Self-Help Resources

The Six Stages of Healing from Generational Trauma

  • Pre-awareness – lack of prior awareness of the concept of generational trauma
  • Uncovering – becoming aware, having knowledge, and understanding of the concept of generational trauma
  • Digging in – occurs facing the reality of generational trauma being a difficult problem.
  • Healing – the process of restoring to emotional state.
  • Understanding – the ability to comprehend the permeance of generational trauma.
  • Nurturing – the want to provide care for and encourage the growth or development during stress associated with generational trauma.

What Can I Do? Coping with Traumatic Stress

First, accept your reactions. Then, be responsive by doing the following:

  • Lean on your loved ones. Identify friends and family for support.
  • Prioritize self-care. Do your best to eat nutritious meals, get regular physical activity, and consistent sleep.
  • Understand your own needs, be accepting of professional assistance such as counseling and psychotherapy.
  • Be patient.  It is normal to want to avoid feelings associated with a traumatic event.

Considerations – Further Questions

  1. How hard is it to break the cycle of generational trauma?

The mental health profession has been hesitant to provide either directions or a clear, meaningful response to this question. The response often provided has been … “it’s complicated.”

It has been my opinion that trauma has permanence.  Therefore, my focus has been on treating the psychological wounds and in doing so, allowing the treated wound to solidify, serving as a foundation of healing when generational transmission of trauma becomes reality. I believe when the focus is on “breaking the cycle” of transmission, treatment is misplaced, not allowing the individual to focus on any current psychological wound but rather on the possibility of upcoming transmission in which future impact is not defined.

  • Can a person be healed from generational trauma?

Without question, generational trauma, due to its ability to strike without warming, is scary.  However, in understanding the permeance of trauma, the individual can develop strategies that are proactive and responsive. Such strategies would include open and honest communications with loved ones and an appreciation (belief… faith… trust) in the psychological self’s ability to respond to the psychological impacts of the trauma and achieve emotional wellness.

Concluding Statement by Dr. Kane

Psychological trauma is cruel.  It is non-caring and everlasting.  Psychological trauma has no respect for age, gender, race, or community.  It strikes without notice or mercy. Psychological trauma has permanence.  It never… ever goes away.

And yet, one must never reject the essence of the human spirit and that of our children to not accept defeat but rather achieve driving (empowerment), striving (setting the pace and distance) and thriving (achieving goals and objections) to respond the traumatic impacts and return to normal emotional functioning.

“And understanding what our children are responding to…as parents, family, friends, professionals, and community… it is important for them to know that we are all there to extend love… help…encouragement …and support. “

Best regards,

Dr. Kane


My Dear Readers,

As we enter the year 2024, I wanted to provide some insight into the direction of the blog for this year.

It was intention last year to write consistently however, with my recent health challenges, I have been limited in my ability to do so.  I am once again facing similar health challenges and will do what I can to provide you with insight as to the work I have passion for and the topics that bring substance to the human condition.  My upcoming 2024 travels and blog topics will include:

– The Lynching Memorial – The National Memorial for Peace & Justice (Montgomery, AL)

– The Wereth 11 Massacre, Battle of The Bulge 1944 (Wereth, Belgium)

– The Black German Memorial (Berlin, Germany)

I have been questioned more than once as to my reasons for traveling to trauma related sites. Blog postings on traumatic related materials speak to the heart of my clinical work. I view my travels to sites (domestic and international) that speak to and acknowledged mankind’s inhumanity as my responsibility to bear witness and pass on such information to others so we may understand the permeance of trauma which never, ever goes away. I am bound and honoring the words of George Santayana who stated:

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”

I am reminded of a poem that I once wrote….

Returning to the Scene of the Crime

I want to return to the scene of the crime.

I do not want to go back.

Going back can bring pain, suffering, and

unresolved memories

Returning, I am armed with wisdom and

knowledge,

which I now take to the future.

I am empowered.

Whatever I was, I am no longer.

The past is what was.

It cannot be recovered.

I live for today. To understand and uncover

I seek the tomorrow.

To explore and discover…

Self

Dr. Micheal Kane

Standing Alone… The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: Divided Quietness – Responding to Transgenerational Trauma

“It is so important for you and me to spend time today learning something about the past so that we can better understand the present, analyze it, and do something about it.

Malcolm X, Civil Rights Activists

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”

George Santayana

“The past is never dead. It’s not even past.”

William Faulkner, Fiction Writer

“History is kept by the state, outsiders, or the community. When a community fails to keep its history, it becomes an accomplice along with the state and outsiders to imposing the psychological trauma within the community.”

Dr. Micheal Kane, Clinical Traumatologist

My Dear Readers,

In the previous blog, “The Houston Riot of 1917 – “An Opportunity to Correct the Record”, I wrote about the military court martials of 157 & executions of 19 Black Soldiers during WWI. Descendants of these young men have fought for 106 years to have these convictions overturned and have the truths exposed.

The descendants were successful in overturning the convictions that lead to dishonorable discharges and swift executions without avenues of appeals of either.

However, in the quest to correct the record, the truths regarding the explicit acts of racism within the trial was not exposed. The one-time trial of 157 soldiers was conducted on a massive scale, in secrecy with the immediate carrying out of the death sentences.  Furthermore, to add to the injury, the military and the federal government had never issued a formal statement to the descendants, the African American community, or the nation, apologizing for its actions.

The timing of the announcement of the “correcting the record” was deliberate and planned to receive minimal response. To not serve as a distraction. Instead of an early release, the press release came several days following Veteran’s Day.

There was no fanfare, no statement from President Biden in his role as commander in chief of the military.  Although the Secretary of Defense and Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff are African American men, no formal statement was made by either individual.

The Community: An Accomplice in Imposing Trauma

In my previous blog, to paraphrase, I stated that when a community fails to keep its history it becomes an accomplice to the psychological trauma being imposed upon and experienced within it.

Divided Quietness

I have received ample feedback ranging from condemnation and outrage to defensiveness regarding the current level of silence and the desire to place this incident in the “past”.

The African American community is not monolithic. Specifically, it does not speak in one voice.  In relation to the revelation of the incident, military court martials, executions and now correcting the record, the reactions have varied, and the response have been a “divided quietness”.

Reactions have included:

  • “I didn’t know.”
  • “It happened a long time ago.” (106 years)
  • “It has nothing to do with me.”
  • “Leave it in the past.”
  • “I don’t want to burden my children.”
  • “It makes me angry … I don’t want to talk about it.”
  • I am not going to tell my children; they don’t need to know.
  • “I have to pray about this.”

Responding to Transgenerational Trauma: Understanding the What & How

As a clinical traumatologist focusing on working with traumatized populations, the objective is to assist those impacted in responding to traumatic injury and the goal is creating a safe space to process the incident(s) which is the foundation of the traumatic injury.

What is Transgenerational Trauma?

In layman’s terms, transgenerational trauma refers to traumatic experiences that are transmitted through the subconscious to subsequent generations and the greater society.  People in the next or following generations find themselves showing symptoms of trauma without having experienced the trauma themselves. 

What are the symptoms of Transgenerational Trauma?

  • Lack of trust.
  • Anger, frustration, or irritability.
  • Insecurity and poor self-esteem.
  • Anxiety disorders and depression.
  • Difficulty trusting others.
  • Unreasonable fear of injury or death.
  • Substance abuse.
  • Feeling disconnected or separated
  • Numbing 

What Can I Do?  Coping with Traumatic Stress

First, accept your reactions.  Then, be responsive by doing the following:

  • Lean on your loved ones.  Identify friends and family for support.
  • Prioritize self-care. Do your best to eat nutritious meals, get regular physical activity and get consistent night’s sleep.
  • Understand your own needs; be accepting of professional assistance such as counseling and/or psychotherapy.
  • Be patient.  It is normal to want to avoid things about a traumatic event.

Concluding Remarks:

“Live in the present… not in the past.”

My Dear Readers,

The above quote by a white reader, was sent to me several years ago. The quote seeks to deny the processing of transgenerational trauma which continues to this current day. There is a version by a black reader that stated, “put the past in the past”.  Both versions reflect the typical desire I define as: D.E.A.D – Denial, Evasion, Avoidance, Distraction.

Simply stated, the desires to live in the future” orput the past in the past” do not work within the subconscious because feelings and thoughts are free flowing, therefore, cannot be directed or controlled. Furthermore, the realness that transgenerational trauma, specific to the African American identity of 403 years, have permanency … it never … ever goes away. 

And in understanding the permanency of trauma, we cannot undo its 3E’s: Existence, Exposure, and Experience.  We have a responsibility to educate and prepare our children.

We can do so with compassion and empathy.  We can provide safe spaces to facilitate understanding and learn how to balance traumatic impacts and lighten the burden associated with the past. In doing so, we can empower ourselves towards emotional wellness, walking the landscape and achievement of self-discovery.

Best regards….


“My past has not defined me, destroyed me, deterred me, it has only strengthened me.”

Unknown

“Never be defined by your past.  It was a lesson, not a life sentence.”

Unknown

Standing Alone… The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: The Houston Riot of 1917 – An Opportunity to Correct the Record

“The board determined the court proceedings to be ‘fundamentally unfair’, and unanimously recommended that all convictions be set aside, and that the soldiers’ military service be re-characterized as honorable.”

– Christine Wormuth, Secretary of Army, (2021-present)

“While we cannot go back in time to change the past from today on, we have an obligation to correct the record.  Not only should we recognize the dedicated services of these Buffalo Soldiers, we must restore and preserve their legacies in perpetuity.”

– Matthew Quinn, Under Secretary for Memorial Affairs, (2021-present)

“Today the legacy of the soldiers, their patriotism and service to the nation – protecting freedoms that they themselves did not enjoy – is being respected and uplifted.”

– Jason Holt, Attorney & descendent of PFC Thomas Hawkins

My Dear Readers,

In this blog, I want to focus on the recent announcement by the US Army seeking to “correct the record”. After 106 years, they are re-examining the court martials of 110 and the executions of 19 Black Soldiers during World War I.  The US Army is not acting in good faith or character by intentionally waiting several days after Veteran’s Day to announce the news. 

The incident occurred in Houston TX in 1917. After repeated assaults by white police and members of the white community, the men of Third Battalion, 124th Infantry, armed themselves and marched toward Houston to confront police about the persistent violence. They planned to stage a peaceful march to the police station as a demonstration against their mistreatment by police. However, just outside the city, the soldiers encountered a mob of armed white men and violence ensued. In the end four soldiers, four police men and 12 civilians were killed.

The US Army “rounded up” 157 black soldiers, court martialing them and trying them in three groups.

  • 19 soldiers were sentenced to death and their sentences were “carried out in secrecy and within a day of sentencing”.
  • It was the largest mass executions of American Soldiers in the history of the military.
  • Following this, the military implemented regulatory changes which prohibited future executions without review by the War Department (now Department of Defense) and the President.

I would like to direct words specifically to the African American community as I believed we have, for the last 106 years, been “asleep at the wheel”.

I will share two comments on social media placed by African Americans:

  1. This action “[is] an opportunity to allow for potential restorative justice and helps guard against repeat occurrences.”

As a clinical traumatologist, I strongly disagree.  Restorative justice and guarding against repeat occurrences cannot be factored in until there is a three-prong process leading to the following:

  1. Uncovering – the truths associated with the incident are fully exposed and an understanding of psychological traumas these Black soldiers endured due to racism.
  2. Discovering – it has taken the US Military 106 years to “correct the record”.  It is a reality that this travesty is not being taught in American history classes nor is such information known within the African American community and being handed down from “generation to generation”.
  3. Recovering – the psychological and emotional wellness of the African American community is in shock and now under a “state of psychological conflict” as it seeks to come to terms psychologically from historical trauma revealed without any preparation to receive this information. 

This psychological conflict is revealed in the second social media comment by an African American who states:

2. “One-hundred and six years late, but better late than never. I hope they attach interest to the benefits. So grateful that my dad was part of the desegregation. It is on these men’s shoulders that he stood and from whom he drew inspiration and courage.  Makes my blood boil though.  I’ll have to pray about this one.”

In the comments the writer seeks to distance himself from acknowledging any gratefulness achieved from the sacrifices and deaths of these men.  He pins all the gratitude for what these men did for his father in his statement: “It is on these men’s shoulders that he stood and from whom he drew inspiration and courage”.

However, the internalized conflicts slowly arise in his ending statements. Psychologically, he knows the conflicts of acknowledging his father’s standing on their shoulders yet refusing to acknowledge he is standing on his father’s shoulders.  Therefore, he concludes with, “Makes my blood boil though.  I’ll have to pray about this one.”

Concluding Remarks: No Free Pass

“Oh Happy Day”

Edwin Hawkins Singers (1968)

“Oh, happy day

Oh, happy day

When Jesus washed

Oh, when He washed

He washed my sins away.”

My Dear Readers,

I am not going to lay this on Jesus.  I do not want sins in this matter to simply be “washed away”. 

Sins of the US Army: Racism… Deception… Covering Up

The US Army court martialed 157 black men for the crimes of self-defense, fighting to survive psychological and physical abuses, murder, and domestic terrorism at home during times of war as they awaited deployment to fight in Europe.  One day following the trial, they executed 19 men under the veil of secrecy.

These men were never provided the opportunity to say farewell to their families.

They greeted death being dishonored and alone.

Sins of the African American Community: Distancing…Willful Ignorance…Silence

The African American community is NOT monolithic… meaning it is not formed of a single block of stone and nor does the community stand as one or speak in one voice.

But where are the voices… any voice?  The descendants of these soldiers have been fighting this battle alone… for 106 years.

And yet there were those days in which voices and actions within the community gave alarm and raised hope for those who had none.  Such examples are:

  • The Negro Silent Protest Parade 1917 in which 10,000 protested in New York City against police brutality and race rioting.
  • In 1932 following the Scottsboro Boys trial the black press engaged along with the NAACP and the black community openly sought justice, eventually achieving freedom for those wrongfully convicted. 

And in reaction, to the black soldiers being executed in secrecy, it was the torrent of outrage from the black media, press and the black community that forced the drastic change in policy that prohibited future executions without, now, the Department of Defense and the President.

There is the problem in the black community where the lack of teaching issues of historical significance leaves future generations unknowledgeable and unaware. The end results can be responses ranging to shock, disbelief, denial, anger, guilt and moving toward traumatic implications and responses.

In willful ignorance, as to the either clear statements or behaviors of “I don’t want to know…”, it is merely a denial of the reality that we are standing on the shoulders of those young men who were either unrightfully dishonorably discharged or went to their deaths alone. 

There is a clinical concept I defined as D.E.A.D: Denial…Evasion…Avoidance…Distraction. This is the trauma that is psychologically destroying White America as they continue to shut their eyes, close their ears, and distance themselves from the daily occurrences of racism in their environment. 

Black America is at risk of the same.  Social distancing, willful ignorance and not educating children only serves to be unprepared for the psychological trauma that awaits. 

As I stated in an earlier writing, “History is kept by the state, outsiders, or the community”. When a community fails to do so, it too becomes an accomplice, along with the state and outsiders, to the psychological trauma being imposed and impacted within the community.

Bottom line… look at the reflection in the mirror… stop blaming others like the state or outsiders and start taking responsibility for empowering yourself, your children, and your community.

“Oh, happy day

Oh, happy day

When Jesus washed

Oh, when He washed

He washed my sins away.”

No. I want my sins and those of others to remain front and center.  It is stated that to forgive is to forget.  I state forgive and remember.

My next writing on black veterans in military service will come in May 2024 following my journey to Wereth Belgium in which I will visit the memorial to the 11 black infantrymen captured, tortured, and executed by the Nazis during the Battle of the Bulge in World War II. 

This horror was known by the US military and covered up.

Until then…

Standing Alone… The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: The Black in Blue… Broken Trust & The Fallout Within the African American Community

Transcription from body camera footage of Memphis PD (MPD) Officers filmed during the fatal beating of Tyre Nichols, January 7, 2023 – traffic stop.

MPD Officer: “Get the fuck out of the car.

Nichols: “Alright, I am on the ground.

MPD Officer: Bitch, put your (hands) behind your back before I break them.

Nichols: You guys are doing a lot right now…I’m just trying to get home.

(Two officers hit and kick Nicholas as he is on the ground)

Nichols: (screaming) “Mooooom!

(Nichols continues to call for his mother for a while)

I am going to baton the fuck out of you.  Give me your fucking hands.

–        (MPD) Officer, transcribed from body-cam footage recorded during the fatal beating of Tyre Nichols.

I was hitting him with straight haymakers, dog.

–        (MPD) Officer, transcribed from body-cam footage recorded during the fatal beating of Tyre Nichols.

You are going to see acts that defy humanity.”

–        Cerelyn (C.J.) Davis, Chief of Police, Memphis Police Department

“Yet another painful reminder of the profound fear and trauma, the pain, and exhaustion that Black and Brown Americans experience every single day.

–        Joseph (Joe) Biden, President, United States

“It was clearly excessive force. What’s even more troubling is no officer was willing to intervene and say, Stop.”

–        Lt. Darin Porcher, NYPD (Retired) and CNN commentor.

“The Memphis Police Association would, again, like to extend condolences to the family of Mr. Tyre Nichols. The Memphis Police Association is committed to the administration of justice and NEVER condones the mistreatment of ANY citizen nor ANY abuse of power. We have faith in the Criminal Justice System. That faith is what we will lean on in the coming days, weeks, and months to ensure the totality of circumstances is revealed. Mr. Nichols’ family, the City of Memphis, and the rest of the country deserve nothing less. We pray for justice, healing, and eventual closure for all involved.”

–        The Memphis Police Association, Official statement issued January 27, 2023, via Facebook.

“I am still trying to understand all of this and trying to wrap my head around all of this.  I will never have my baby. I’ll never have my baby again.”

–        RowVaughn Wells, mother of Tyre Nichols

“I don’t want us burning up our cities, tearing up the streets, because that’s not my son stood for… “And if you guys are here for me and Tyre, then you will protest peacefully.”

–        RowVaughn Wells, mother of Tyre Nicholas, statement given before footage was made public.

My Dear Readers,

Here we are again. Barely two years following the death of George Floyd, three years following the death of Breonna Taylor and, 30 years following the brutal beating of Rodney King. Once again there is the death of another Black man due to police brutality and misconduct.  The numerous deaths of African Americans people by the police have been “normed” meaning “accepted” in both Black and White communities.

Although the African American community has been identified as among the most economically and politically powerful people of African descent in the world today, psychologically speaking we remain unable to protect our community members from the oppression of others outside of our community.  We remain psychologically mired in what I have defined in my clinical practice as two distinct groups “Existers” i.e., existing as in “The Waiting Dead” and “Survival-ship” i.e., survivors as in “Walking Wounded.”  

The tragedy of the beating death of Tyre Nichols is affirmation of the “Survival-ship” status that mires the African American community.  This community is policed and law-and- order enforced by a system that is steeped in systematic and structural racism.  During the 1950’s and early 1960’s the civil rights movement challenged police brutality and other forms of racial segregation and discrimination in the urban North and the Jim Crow system in the American South.

The brutality by the five Black officers on a helpless individual brings memories to when law enforcement on Bloody Sunday in Selma, Alabama, attacked 600 unarmed protestors using Billy clubs, tear gas, and police dogs.  The common theme of the time was the prevalence of all white policing in African American communities and the police brutality that was the result. 

The five Black police officers responsible for the death of Tyre Nichols are continuing the tradition of a system that is steeped in systematic and structural racism. The media seeks to portray this as a situation in which five Black police officers beat to death a Black man.  Yet the news media is intentionally omitting the systemic and structurally racist system that these men work within and committed to “serve and protect.”

This systemic and structurally racist system of policing began in the 18th century as slave catchers. These were organized groups of armed men who monitored, controlled, and enforced discipline upon enslaved people. Policing today has not changed in the way it interacts with African American communities. When compared to White communities, who continue to receive community protection and policing services, African American communities and African Americans continue to be treated with a heavy hand i.e., enforcement, regulation, and control.

Broken Trust…

I recently published a post on social media, specifically LinkedIn, as to my pointed remarks following the death of Tyre Nichols.

I work as a clinical traumatologist. My clinical caseload consists primary of African American patients.

I have patients who feel violated and betrayed.  There are individuals who don’t understand the meaning of systematic and structural racism.  What they see and understand are five Black police officers beating to death another Black man.  The trust that was there in “the Black wearing the Blue” has been shattered.

Below are my writings on social media:

Time Heals Wounds…

To those who state that time heals wounds.  Not true.  Time is merely time. It is what one does with time.  Trust is an individual gift not a collective quality to be assigned, assumed, or simply given away.  If the police accept what is real, trust with the African American community is a one-on-one relationship. 

There is a knife cutting deeply and silently into the hearts of the African American community.  There lies deep the psychological wounding of Betrayal Trauma. There was a time in which Black police officers were extended grace, given the difficult position of being police and working in police departments, where they too, like other members of the African American community, were in hostile work environments.

The grace Black police officers had, given the actions of five police officers in Memphis, TN is gone.  These horrific acts caught on video, have been seen and witnessed by millions.

Trauma has permanency… Trauma never ever goes away.

The vision of Black police officers as “our guardians or protectors” evaporated in the beating death of Tyre Nichols by five BLACK police officers.  Instead of screaming racism (yes, structural and systemic racism is alive and well), will the African American community, not the politicians or the pastors, but the community look within itself to question and seek solutions?  Or do we continue to look for politicians and pastors to speak for us.

Hopefully, the police and the African American community will accept the challenges that now exists.

Time does not heal wounds… People and actions do.

 Sharing Images of Police Brutality …. Taking Care of SELF

True… Sharing images of police brutality is not allyship.  It’s exposing the truth.

True… Sharing images of five Black police officers laughing after severely beating a helpless Black man who subsequently dies from the beating is traumatizing. 

And now what? What do we do, understanding the psychological trauma we have been exposed to. We remember the severe beating of Rodney King suffered by the police in 1991.  Now 31 years later, another young Black man beaten, tortured and this time, dead as a result of police misconduct.  Again, what actions will you take?  Please support BLM.  Although this man’s life did not matter to those who took it… by your actions, say how it matters to you.

As for therapy, the time for ending the holding of secrets, pain, and emotional suffering can be now.  Become the master of your destiny, seek the journey of self-discovery.  Stop following the Groupthink about the negativity associated with psychotherapy. 

Trauma is permanent.  It never ever goes away.  One cannot unseen what has been seen.

Stop looking towards your community and society to move you from “Survival-ship” to empowerment.

The time can be now.  The choices of continuing to run the hard race or begin running a smart race remains.  The decision is yours.

Reflections…

My Dear Readers,

In writing this blog, recent news media stories have indicated that two additional Memphis Police Department officers and two Shelby County Sheriff deputies were placed on administrative leave while an internal investigation has been launched into their conduct following the police assault on Tyre Nichols.  Furthermore, three Memphis Fire Department emergency medical technicians, including a lieutenant, command level and supervisory officer were terminated for violation of numerous policies and protocols in responding to the medical call in the provision of aid to Tyre Nichols.

James Baldwin, a prolific African American writer, in his 1985 book, The Evidence of Things Not Seen, wrote this about “Black cops”:

“Black policemen were another matter.  We used to say, “if you just must call a policeman”—for we hardly ever did— “for God’s sake, try to make sure it’s a White one.”  A Black policeman could completely demolish you.  He knew far more about you than a White policeman could, and you were without defenses before this Black brother in uniform whose entire reason for breathing seemed to be his hope to offer proof that, though he was Black, he was not Black like you.”

I am pained by these words.  I come from a family steeped in public service to this country. My older brother served during the Vietnam War, returning psychologically traumatized and disabled.  His life ended, dying in a drunkard stupor. My younger brother served 20 years in the California state correction system, rising in the ranks from Corrections Officer to Warden.  He also was psychologically impacted by the horrors he observed during his watch.  My father faithfully served his country in the US military, serving 20 years including three tours during the Vietnam War.  Following his retirement, he went on to serve 20 additional years as a federal police officer.  My father was proud to put on his uniform and badge and to “serve and protect.”

 He once boasted that if he was shot in the line of duty, he would “bleed blue.” He loved being a police officer.   Yet he never understood that he was being used, played, and manipulated by a system mired in systemic and structural racism.  At his death and following his 20 years of faithful service to “serve and protect” his police department failed to provide either an honor guard, condolences to the family, flowers, or any acknowledgement.

Resentful? Nope.  Just an acknowledgement of what occurs when one commits to a cancerous system that is racked with racism that devours those who seek to “serve and protect,” The actions of the five Black officers are indictive of James Baldwin’s concluding words… “this Black brother in uniform whose entire reason for breathing seemed to be his hope to offer proof that, though he was Black, he was not Black like you.”

The words of James Baldwin are psychologically impactful and reinforces the falseness of the oath to “serve and protect.” The oath is mired in the cancer of systemic and structural racism. And yet, the tragic death of Tyre Nichols and its brutality administered by five police officers of likewise racial and community belongings brings forth the reality within the African American community that Black in Blue is no longer recognizable.  The death of Tyre Nichols is a profound statement… BLUE…BLUE and forever BLUE.

Concluding Words by Dr. Kane

In response to the actions resulting in the death of Trye Nichols, a reader stated:

“More poignant that we find this extreme behavior among Black policemen, but it is manifested across all institutions.  For example, Black social workers make the same decisions regarding black children and families as do white social workers.  This abusive behavior is driven by a mix of policy and social distancing.”

The reader makes a strong point, the failure would be for the African American community and others concerned, to target systemic and structural racism only within policing when in fact the policy and social distancing is inherently mired in the cancer of systemic and structural racism throughout the institutions of serving these communities.

I began this writing by defining the African American community as being psychologically mired in two distinct groups i.e., “Existers” as in “The Waiting Dead” and “Survival-ship” as in the “Walking Wounded”.  

These two groups are the mainstream of Groupthink, which is the practice of thinking or making decisions as a group in a way that discourages creativity or individual responsibility. It is a phenomenon that occurs when a group of individuals reaches a consensus without critical reasoning or evaluation of the consequences or alternatives.  Groupthink is based on a common desire not to upset the balance of a group of people.

Groupthink in the context within the African American community occurs when two distinct groups “Existers” and “Survival-ship”, are reacting to the state of “living in fear.”  A response or alternative to Groupthink is one that would encourage creativity and individual responsibility.  This response will be the movement of a third group known as “Walking the Landscape”. The intent henceforth would be reinforcing driving (empowerment), striving (setting pace and direction) and thriving (accomplishing goals and objectives).

Groupthink is inherent within the African American community. Historically, change has been motivated, initiated, and directed by leadership designated by others including politicians, churches and civic leaders. For the community to move away from the status of existing and survival ship, new innovative programming must be developed coming from within the community at the grassroots level that will inspire and encourage the creativity and individual responsibility and move them toward the third group, “Walking the Landscape.”

The African American community is psychologically impacted and traumatized by repeated assaults of systemic and structural racism. Psychological healing of the wounded is essential for its members to achieve emotional wellness and empowerment of wellbeing.

The process of empowerment, known as “Journey of Self Discovery,” is an alternative to the downward spiraling of Groupthink currently mired within those who are pressured to conform, fearful of exposing any vulnerability, reacting to group censorship, and desiring to question values and belief systems. We all stand at the crossroads of life… facing choices in which we decide on the direction that is to be taken.

Walking the landscape

Returning To the Scene of The Crime

I want to return to the scene of the crime

I do not want to go back.  I want to go forward

Going back can brings pain, suffering and unresolved memories

Returning, and moving forward…I am armed with wisdom and knowledge, which I now take into the future.

Whatever I was, I am no longer.

The past is what it was.  It cannot be recovered.

I live for today.  To understand and uncover.

I seek the tomorrow.  To explore and discover…

Self.

Dr. Micheal Kane

Standing Alone… The Unspoken Truth

https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/27/us/tyre-nichols-memphis-friday/index.html

Memphis Police Association Facebook Page

The Evidence of Things Not Seen – James Baldwin

The Unspoken Truth: Balancing Vigilance and Paranoia– Juneteenth & Independence Day

“I’m not jumping in after you.”

-Tempe AZ Cops as a Black Man drowned.

(Oxygen News)

“Coins depicting Border Patrol agent grabbing Haitian migrant trigger investigation”

(Headline, Los Angeles Times)

“New York man who was caught on camera claiming to be an ‘off-duty trooper’ while going on a racist road rage tirade has been charged with a hate crime.”

(Headline, CNN)

“City Paying Cop Who Posted Nazi Symbol in Office $1.5M To Go Away”

(Headline, VICE News)

“Cop Caught on Video Telling Black Driver ‘This is How You Guys Get Killed’”

(Headline, VICE News)

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My Dear Readers,

In writing this blog, I bring you greetings from my current travels in Paris, France and Lisbon, Portugal.  While in Paris, I had the opportunity to walk the Ricki Stevenson 8-hour Black Paris Tour (led by Miguel Overton Guerrero for a record fourth time! Not bad for a senior dude from Seattle!)

During the tour, we visited the areas where Black American celebrities, including dancer Josephine Baker and writers James Baldwin and Richard Wright lived and the restaurants they visited daily for their meals and gatherings with other Black American artists and writers.  I also visited the American Church where Martin Luther King preached after returning from Oslo, Norway, where he received his Nobel Peace Prize. 

During the tour, I visited the famous Arc de Triomphe where, following the Allied victory over Germany at the end of WWI, African American soldiers were not allowed to participate in the victory march due to the racist segregationist polices of the American military leadership. 

The tour culminated with a visit to a community within Paris known as “Little Africa,” where I was able to purchase items that would influence my clinical practice. Towards the end of my stay in Paris, I was able to secure a business contract with the world-famous Seattle-based chocolate chef Michael Poole, also known as “Hot Chocolat.”  Chef Poole, also African American, was trained at Le Cordon Bleu in Paris. As we are both extremely busy individuals, it took a trip of 5,000 miles, crossing two continents, to forge a business contract for the chef to provide his deserts for the upcoming gala in July being sponsored by Kane & Associates.

I write to you now from Lisbon, Portugal. I wanted to come to Europe to get a different world perspective for this blog entry.  As a clinical traumatologist, responding to the mass killings of Black people in Buffalo, NY and the 19 children and two teachers in Uvalde, Texas was psychologically impactful.  As I enter July 2022, I begin the period of my professional and personal life that I have named “the Emergence”.  It is in the emergence that I further my determination to walk the landscape of my life, and to live the life I want, and not continue to live the life I have.

My life began during segregation, when being labeled as “colored” restricted my access to education and other opportunities.  As a child, I recall my first experiences of domestic terrorism including lynching, the church bombing in Birmingham, Alabama in which four little black girls were killed, and the horrors of police ordering dogs to bite defenseless protesters while firefighters used water hoses, battering defenseless children and adults.

Still, the African American community nationwide persevered, never wavering in its determination to achieve a better life for its children than the one endured by previous generations.  Yet, in its determination to achieve political and economic power and “forced” acceptance into the American Dream, which was well guarded by the dominant group, the African American community failed to provide emotional protection in the form of individual, family and/or group therapies necessary to respond to repetitive psychological traumatic assaults. 

Instead, the community continued to rely on faith-based institutions and family structures.  Neither have been able to develop comprehensive strategies, and today, community members collectively continue to seek political and economic power, continue to suffer psychologically due to repetitive traumatic intrusions and conscious and unconsciously racist actions by members of the dominant majority, denied the true elements of walking one’s landscape: driving (empowerment), striving (setting direction and pace), and thriving (achieving goals & objectives).

Below is the story of one individual, in the trap of the American Dream…

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Dear Dr. Kane,

I hope life finds you well.  I have read your blog postings over the years and I hope that you can advise me.  I live in Marysville, WA which is a predominately white city.  I have always been a law-abiding citizen who contributes to the wellness of my community and yet, I feel very alone living here, and I have had numerous experiences where my freedom can be taken from me at a moment’s notice.  When I express these feelings to my white colleagues, I am not taken seriously—rather, they laugh or say that I’m being paranoid, oversensitive or overreactive.

Recently, I had an experience that shook me to my core. I am unable to talk about it as I am concerned as to how others will see me or somehow twist the story around to make it seem as if I was responsible for what happened.  I was at home when I noticed that there was someone on my property who appeared to be in distress.  I came outside to see this white woman who appeared homeless, disheveled and in tears.  I went to ask her how I could help her, and as I approached her, she snarled and yelled “Get away from me …nigger!” I stood there, dumbfounded, and shocked.  Her next words sent a chill up and down my spine. She stated in a very calm voice …” don’t make me take your freedom.” She suddenly stood up, and with a look of disdain and defiance, left my property.  I stood there in utter silence…watching her disappear down the street and to the back of my mind.

Despite my high six-figure salary, home ownership and community involvement, this homeless White woman had the power to “take my freedom,” and not only did she know it, she was willing to use it.  She left knowing what I knew:  that a complaint from her to the police would irrevocably change my life. At that time, she had me.  She had my freedom in her hands, and all it would take is her word to unleash hell on me.

I just stood there, saying nothing as she walked away.  I was ashamed and humiliated. I didn’t talk back.  I didn’t call the police.  I simply accepted the abuse.  I don’t want to tell anyone, especially my son—he’ll no longer respect me.  My son wants me to explain Juneteenth and given what happened to me, I feel unable to do so.  Can you help?  What do I say?  How can I forget about this terrible incident?  How do I get the thoughts to stop?  I am now having nightmares about the police taking me out of my home.  Please help.

Chained & Broken,

Marysville WA

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My Dear Young Man (& My Dear Readership),

I appreciate your willingness to write, sharing your experience with the readership and seeking consultation regarding the horrible situation in which you endured.  In responding to your concerns, I feel it is best to divide my responses in distinctive areas.  In my response regarding your experience, I will address my remarks directly to the readership as I’m sure that this will help other African American individuals who have experienced similar incidents and therefore can provide a proper or appropriate response.

Balancing Vigilance, Not Paranoia

Paranoia is a mental condition characterized by delusions of persecution, unwarranted jealousy, or exaggerated self-importance. It can also be suspicion or mistrust without evidence or justification. This young man did not go into the specifics of his experiences, but as an African American man living among a predominately white population, he has valid concerns about being susceptible to unconscious bias and vulnerable to conscious and unconscious racist actions.  Such vulnerability could lead to heightened vigilance, which, given the racial predominance of the community in which he resides, can be considered normal and appropriate.

Understanding the Intrusions of Shame & Humiliation

Shame is defined as painful feelings associated with the belief that there is something dishonorable, improper, or ridiculous about the self.  Humiliation, in contrast, refers to an event where unequal power in a relationship is displayed, where you are in the inferior position and unjustly treated.

Shame is an internal construct which is reinforced from within. Shame can induce the individual to:

  • Feel badly about the self
  • Express disapproval of one’s own actions and accomplishments
  • Feel inferior or experience loss of self esteem
  • Repeatedly blaming oneself for a mistake

Humiliation, on the other hand, is an external insult initiated by another person.  The painful experience is vividly remembered for an extended period.  Humiliation requires the involvement of three distinct parties:

  • The perpetrator exercising power
  • The victim who is shown to be powerless
  • There is the perception of witnesses or observers to the event

In this case, the humiliation begins with the white woman’s rejection of the African American man’s empathy by hurling the racist remark and demanding that he move away from her, even though she is on his property without permission.  Furthermore, the humiliation is completed when the African American homeowner acknowledges the homeless White woman’s power and his own powerlessness, coupled with his real fear of the negative consequences should she follow through with her threat to “take his freedom,” with the clear implication that she would use the police to do so.

As stated earlier, shame as an internal construct occurs when the victim reinforces his own negative self-esteem. Despite his attempts to prove himself worthy of respect through his high six figure salary and homeownership, he was deeply injured, and he is unable to repair the damage created by his mistake in not advocating for self when the incident and threat of loss of freedom occurred.  Now, due to his fear of loss of validation and respect from his son, he is unable to share with his son his wisdom and experiences.

The Permanency of Psychological Trauma

“We do not have to agree…We do want to understand.”

-Dr. Micheal Kane

There are clear misconceptions within the psychological self of the African American homeowner.  He blames himself for not rebuking his perpetrator.  He acknowledges not calling the police, but simply accepting the abuse.  Not only does he fear if he should he tell his son he will lose his respect, but he has already lost his own self-respect as we listen to his words and actions.  Now he seeks to have these ruminating thoughts removed and nightmares cease. Neither the thoughts nor the nightmares relating to this incident will stop.  

This individual, as well as ALL African Americans, can benefit by understanding this:  bad thoughts, nightmares, and incidents arising from psychological trauma do not simply go away.  African Americans are impacted by 17 subtypes of psychological trauma and 16 forms of racism daily.  Psychological trauma has permanency.  It never, ever goes away. When faced with horrific situations, the traumatized individual must, rather than react, craft a response through advocating, (reinforcing the integrity of self), balancing (the weight of traumatic impacts} and calmness (in both the psychological self and the external environment i.e., the world).

Concluding Words-The Unspoken Truth …… Dr. Micheal Kane

“President Trump, I want to thank you for the historic victory for white life in the Supreme Court today.”

-Republican Congresswoman Mary Miller

“To Uncle Clarence & The Supremes …. We will not surrender.  We will fight onward until victory is done.”

– Dr. Micheal Kane

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My Dear Young Man,

Again, I thank you for the willingness to share your situation with my readership.  In closing, I want to respond to your ending and most important question: ”What do I tell my son?”  My advice is simple: tell him the truth.  Tell him the truth about the power of “White Tears” being expressed by White women.  Tell him the truth about Emmett Till, the fourteen-year-old boy who was murdered based on a White woman’s word.  Tell your son the truth about your reasonable fears regarding interaction with law enforcement, which has its historical beginnings in slave catching and overseers, working in conjunction with slave owners, government officials and federal judges.   

When you speak of Juneteenth, tell him that American military commanders during WWI refused to allow African Americans to fight under the American flag and instead, gave entire segregated divisions of African Americans over to the French Army to fight in French uniforms under the French flag, and after the war, were prevented by the same American military commanders from participating in the Victory March in 1918. Tell your son that it took Congress 120 years to approve federal anti-lynching legislation and during these yearly debates, 4,000 African American children, women and men were lynched.

When you speak of the 4th of July Independence Day celebration, tell your son that the Supreme Court in 1857 ruled that the United States Constitution was not meant to include people of African descent.  Tell your son that African Americans have fought in every war for their country despite being forced to into slavery, responding to Black Codes, Sundown Laws, domestic terrorism, and other threats. 

I was traveling in Paris, retracing the steps of African Americans serving in France during WWI when the news came of the Supreme Court conservative majority overturning Roe v Wade. I am in Lisbon, Portugal making my way home… there is much work for us to do protect a Woman’s right to DECIDE, not simply choose.  It is my decision to live the life that I want and not live the life that is chosen for me by others. 

In closing I would suggest that in seeking to “Empower the Psychological Self,” that you consider holistically the decisions you make, the consequences and lessons you learn and the wisdom that flows from it all.  In Walking Your Landscape, remember that you stand alone, and it is in standing alone that one embraces aloneness.

The Five Elements of Embracing Aloneness

Alertness- Balancing being watchful with a wide-awake attitude

Awareness-Having knowledge and understanding of one’s surroundings that something is happening or existing within one’s immediate space.

Arousal-The awakening or causing of strong feelings or excitement in one’s sensation.

Abandon-The understanding that one has ceased to look for support from others and course of action, a practice or a way of thinking must come from within oneself.

Alive– Continuing the state of being alert, active, animated.  Walking the landscape having interest and meaning with fullness of emotion, excitement and activity.

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Uncle Clarence,

I dedicate this poem to you.

-Dr. Kane

The Darkest Hour

James Baldwin 1925-1987

The darkest hour

is just before the dawn,

and that, I see,

which does not guarantee

power to draw the next breath,’

nor abolish the suspicion

that the brightest hour

we will ever see

occurs just before we cease

to be.

Standing Alone…The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: No Place To Hide

“You just got to go for it.”

Payton Gendron age 18, shooter (livestreamed video statement following the killing of 10 and wounding of 3)

“It was a straight up, racially motivated hate crime.”

John Garcia, Sheriff, Erie County

“The shooter was not from this community.  In fact, the shooter traveled hours from outside the community to perpetrate this crime on the people of Buffalo.”

Byron Brown, Mayor, City of Buffalo

“I assure everyone in this community, justice is being done right and justice will be done.”

John Flynn, District Attorney, Erie County, New York

“It strikes at our very hearts to know that there is such evil that lurks out there.  It is my sincere hope that the suspect will spend the rest of his days behind bars.”

Kathy Hochul, Governor, The State of New York

“My message is to make sure that we recognize that this is an individual.  This was not a white man from our community. This was not a white man from Buffalo.  This is a white person who was evil.”

Darius G. Pridgen, President, Buffalo City Council & Senior Pastor, True Bethel Baptist Church

”Fear is here forever.  It never left…. It has always been here, and it will always be here.”

Dr. Micheal Kane Clinical Traumatologist

My Dear Readers,

I write to you during a very difficult time.  My community, the African American community, has once again suffered from a great loss of innocent life. And less than two weeks following President Biden’s words of “no more” … another horrific mass killing of the innocent has occurred: 19 children and two adults slaughtered in an elementary school in Uvalde, Texas.  This time, the horror impacted the Mexican American community.  Once again, another “tsunami” of massive psychological impact, bringing a mountainous wall of grief, devastation, and unrelenting fear upon us.

The term “tsunami” is often used to describe a long, high sea wave caused by an earthquake or other disturbance.  It can also be described as an arrival or occurrence of something in overwhelming quantities or amounts. 

Over 2,500 miles separate Seattle, WA from Buffalo, NY.  On Saturday, May 14, 2022, a white supremacist, traveling 200 miles from his residence to Buffalo, NY; entered a supermarket in a predominately African American community and opened fire, killing 10 and wounding 3, bringing that “tsunami” to African American communities in Seattle and in cities across the country.

The initial impact was thunderous then, and shockwaves remain with us today.  African American communities across the nation are traumatized, grief stricken, and psychologically impacted by this instance of racial hatred, just like they were seven years ago, following a similar incident in Charleston, South Carolina in which another young white male supremacist entered the Emanuel AME Church and after being welcomed into Bible study, slaughtered nine African Americans, including the Senior Pastor.

For those who are not familiar with my clinical work, my focus as a clinical traumatologist is on the psychological impacts of clinical traumatology and racism. In 8 years of postdoctoral study and running a clinical practice for over 30 years, I have identified 17 subtypes of trauma and 16 forms of racism which African Americans are vulnerable to and exposed to daily, on which I have published, lectured and acted as a keynote speaker and clinical consultant for the Black Congressional Caucus conference.

And here I am today, utilizing the SELF™ Protocol for my patients daily: providing and holding a safe, secure space for those in emotional pain to either sit in silence or to release the substances surfacing on their landscape.

For me, it is a privilege and an honor to hold “space,” listening to the release of such emotional pain and suffering.  I define this as my “WOW” practice: Waiting (patiently), Observing (listening) Witnessing (Serving humanity).

Below are excerpts of darkness being lifted into the light….

Dr. Kane,

Please help me. Please. I have no other place to turn.  I am afraid all the time.  I can’t leave my home.  I can’t eat or sleep. My babies need food. I need to see you.  Please text me.

M. (Seattle)

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Dr. Kane,

My husband has armed himself.  He does not trust the police to protect him as they are always targeting him. I am afraid that should he be pulled over; they will kill him.  He won’t listen to me.  What can I do?  Will you talk to him?

C. (Tacoma)

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Hey Doc,

My name is J.  I am sick and tired of this shit.  I feel that I am a target waiting to be killed. I am the only Black teacher in my school.  I see them whispering when they are around me. I stay to myself.  You may think I am paranoid, but I feel I’m next up.  Keeping on the face is tearing me up inside.  Got any time to see me?

J. (Tukwila)

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Dr. Kane,

I just got off the phone with another black therapist.  I can’t get in.  Same damn story. Everyone is full.  Can’t talk to a white therapist; did that already; besides not being able to get it, the last one wanted to talk to me about my anger and being paranoid. Is he fucking serious?  Can you fit me in on your schedule?  Please call me back.

V. (Bellevue)

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So, what are the common themes? Fear, Hopelessness, Lack of control. 

The answer? Learning to live with fear and not in fear… Walking one’s Landscape with Hope, letting go of control and focusing on achieving balance.

From a clinical trauma viewpoint, repetitive psychological impacts during the last 403 years and counting, including slavery, emancipation, reconstruction era, segregation, Jim Crow, Black codes, race riots and massacres incited by Whites, civil rights movement, housing rights, voting rights, and so much more…are the reality that Black folks have existed and survived through while others such as White folks have strived and thrived throughout.

Economically and politically, African Americans enjoy higher living standards than any other people of African descent worldwide and yet, continue to live in fear of racial violence and terror, seeking protection from a law enforcement apparatus that is historically rooted in “slave catching” and even today, still views its African American citizens as second-class citizens.

For 403 years, African Americans have struggled against staunch resistance to achieve what many White Americans are born into: acceptance into what is identified as the fabric of America.  African Americans, after all this adversity, continue to achieve and will not be denied.

Yet, how does one continue to want to advance in the face of psychological decimation?  How does one walk their life’s landscape in the face of fear of harm/death to one’s loved ones or self? 

Concluding Words- Walking the Landscape: Alone & Empowered

“You can run but you can’t hide.”

Joe Louis, “The Brown Bomber” World Heavyweight Champion 1937-1949

My Dear Readers,

I originally wrote this piece after the Buffalo shooting but chose to rewrite this in light of the Uvalde shooting—that’s how quickly one followed the other. Gun violence due to unrestricted and easy access to weapons has resulted in the loss of 21 lives including 19 children and two teachers at Uvalde. 

This tragedy follows the mass loss of life in 2019 in which 23 persons were killed by a White supremacist in El Paso Texas. Similar to the Buffalo mass murders, the White supremacist in the El Paso Walmart shooting drove an extended distance (580) from his suburban community of Allen, TX to El Paso with the specific intent to target ethnic minorities i.e., Mexican Americans.  Like both the Buffalo, NY and Charleston, SC shootings, all three of the White supremacists were young (18, 21, 21), were able to purchase the weapons legally, and were strongly invested in the Great Replacement Theory, a racist, sexist doctrine being pushed in far-right circles. 

Another similarity is the murder of 8 persons in Atlanta GA of which 6 were Asian women.  Although there is no evidence at this time that the killing of the 21 individuals in the elementary school of Uvalde, TX have racial overtones, the common theme are the young ages of the shooters and easy access to firearms legally sold at the age of 18 years old.

Ethnic minorities have consistently voiced their outrage and concern regarding threats of physical harm and psychological impacts due to factors of white supremacy, easy access to weapons and the threats coming from young, radicalized individuals. These communities have been labeled “paranoid” and “mentally ill” regarding micro-aggressive assaults (deliberate and intentional slights such as, name-calling, avoidant behavior, and purposeful discriminatory actions) and macro-aggressive assaults (large scale or overt aggression leading to bodily harm, physical injury and/or death). 

And now, these same devastated and impacted communities are being asked to believe that the system of laws, which is only there to protect itself, will protect them from the fears that those systems have labeled as paranoia and mental illness.

Protection for ethnic minority communities is long overdue. Yet, the three branches of federal governance appear immobilized, incapable and mired in competing agendas that appear to ignore the concerns of these communities.

  • The Judicial Branch is in disarray preparing to overturn Roe v Wade.  The focus of the dominant group is abortion and not the interest of “Black Lives Matter.”
  • The Legislative Branch (Congress) took 120 years to pass a federal anti-lynching law that was regularly introduced on a yearly basis.  4,000 children, women, men young and old were lynched while they debated the issue.
  • The Executive Branch– In 2015, President Obama came to Charleston, South Carolina to extend his condolences regarding the murders of 9 church members by a young white supremacist. In 2017 during the racist march in Charlotteville, VA in speaking about white supremacy, President Trump stated “There were very fine people on both sides.” In 2022, President Biden came to Buffalo, New York to extend his condolences and stated

“White supremacy is a poison…and it’s been allowed to fester and grow right in front of our eyes.” … “No More.”

President Joe Biden

We send our children out every morning to school, vulnerable and exposed to the same or similar overt and covert racial experiences that have psychologically impacted us and still scar us to this very day. Yet we are “shocked” and in disbelief when our children returned home psychologically impacted.

In Uvalde, Texas, 19 children went to school one morning and due to easily accessible and legal ownership of firearms…they did not come home.  They are lost forever.  The psychological impacts of mass shootings in a supermarket in Buffalo NY and an elementary school in Uvalde, TX have long lasting ramifications to our children and leave their parents with being psychologically impacted and hopeless in protecting their children.  Below is such an indicator.

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Dr. Kane,

I am at work today. My son H, called me from school sobbing, stating the white classmates have been told by their parents not to play with him because they could be killed in a drive by. My son is 8 years old! And he is asking me, “why do White people hate me?  What do I say? I am in tears.  I got to work with these people.  I can’t tell them this.  I can’t let them see me like this.

-Corporate Lawyer (Seattle)

Who is the patient?  The mother or the eight-year child? (Answer- both…individual, play, family, group therapies)

Where do they refer to? (All the Black therapists in the local area are full.  White therapists? Lacking in understanding the Black experience? Lack of cultural competency?  Lack of trauma focused training & experience?).

What do they do? (They continue to survive, suffer in silence, wear the “face” or the “mask” and wait… wait .. for the next shooting.

WHAT CAN WE DO?  We can empower ourselves to by considering the protocol of The Five Elements of Embracing Aloneness, and maintain situational awareness in being vigilant in public places.

SITUATIONAL AWARENESS: HOW TO BE VIGILANT IN PUBLIC PLACES

  1. REDUCE AND AVOID DISTRACTIONS. … 
  2. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES. … 
  3. MAKE YOURSELF A DIFFICULT TARGET. … 
  4. TRUST YOUR GUT. … 
  5. PRACTICE PREDICTING POSSIBLE INCIDENTS. … 
  6. SITUATIONAL AWARENESS IS OBSERVING YOUR SURROUNDINGS. … 
  7. CARRY ITEMS FOR SELF-DEFENSE.

As Joe Louis stated, “You can run but you can’t hide.” Or you can stop running and empower your children and yourself.

“You either live the life you want… or continue to live (exist) in the life you have.”

Dr. Micheal Kane

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We Wear the Mask

BY PAUL LAURENCE DUNBAR

We wear the mask that grins and lies,

It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes,—

This debt we pay to human guile;

With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,

And mouth with myriad subtleties.

Why should the world be over-wise,

In counting all our tears and sighs?

Nay, let them only see us, while

       We wear the mask.

We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries

To thee from tortured souls arise.

We sing, but oh the clay is vile

Beneath our feet, and long the mile;

But let the world dream otherwise,

       We wear the mask!

Standing Alone…Empowered … The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: Slave Play, White Fragility, and the Difficulty in Talking About Race

“While it is true that white fragility is an insidious trauma injury to people of color, white people are not raised to see themselves in terms of race.”

-Micheal Kane, Psy.D, Clinical Traumatologist

“When you are told time and time again you’re not good enough, that your opinion doesn’t matter as much; when they don’t just look past you, to them you’re not even there; when that has been your reality for so long, it’s hard not to let yourself think it’s true.”

– The Post

“What does race mean to the person of color?  Everything.  From the first breath taken in life to one’s dying day.  Race is incarceration or freedom.  Race is a door that is open or closed. Race is living life thriving or surviving. Race identifies that the space you occupy has been ‘designated’ for you and reinforces for you that others will seek to hold you there for the rest of your life.  Race is everything.”

-Micheal Kane, Psy.D., Clinical Traumatologist

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My Dear Readers,

I am currently preparing to leave for New York City to attend another Broadway play, A Soldier’s Story. It is a murder mystery set on a segregated military base located in Louisiana during WWII. When I return, I’ll share my thoughts. But as I prepare to experience another play with a strong racial interaction, I find myself reflective of the last play I saw and wrote about in the most recent blog, The Unspoken Truth: Slave Play and White Fragility.

I continue to replay the exchange at the conclusion of the play in which two white theater attendees chose to intellectualize the experience and in doing so, denied themselves the opportunity to explore their emotions. The opportunity was lost due to their inability to recognize the general space they occupy as “white spaces.”

The playwright brilliantly utilizes race, sex and trauma to demonstrate the privilege being displayed by the white characters and its impacts on the black characters.  The common theme of the black actors was that racial trauma accruing from not being listened to by their white partners resulted in sexual dysfunction.

The production has been criticized as negatively casting whites as being racist. In response, the playwright Jeremy O. Harris states:

“This isn’t about every white person. This play is about eight specific people and if you don’t see yourself up here, that’s great, you aren’t one of them-you aren’t.”

 

Given this, we can accept that racism is taught and feelings about race are internalized within the psychological self.  Experience has taught me that “every white man is not my enemy and every black man is not my friend.” Experience has also taught me to choose to focus on what lies in a person’s heart and in their actions.

 

One’s Heart & One’s Actions

Harriet Tubman, the Underground Railroad conductor, is one of my heroes.  It was her determination, courage and sense of purpose that empowered her to lead hundreds of slaves to freedom.  Harriet Tubman stated: “God don’t mean people to own people.”

As much as Harriet Tubman is deservedly revered, what is ignored is that she could not have accomplished her objective of carrying those to freedom without the assistance of whites who like her believed that “God don’t mean people to own people.”

However, when slavery ended, the good white folks, content that the objective had been accomplished, stepped away, leaving the newly freed slaves to fend for themselves and to “pull themselves up by their bootstraps.”  Feeling that the mission was accomplished, the good white people became silent to the lynching and screams of the new free blacks as they endured domestic terrorism from Klansmen dressed in white hoods and forced segregation via black codes and state and federal laws.

It is the same as in the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960’s. As Martin Luther King stated:

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

Many whites stood up to walk with him and others and in doing so, were jailed, beaten and killed as well.  When federal civil rights laws, equal rights in housing and employment laws were passed, the “good” white people stepped away once again, feeling that the objective had been accomplished away to allowed the newly franchised people to, once again, “pull themselves up by their bootstraps.”

However, when drugs, crime, unemployment, educational failure and high incarceration ravaged the communities of color, the good white people once again became silent. Today, the majority of the good white people remain silent.

 

What is Privilege?

It is an unearned right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular group.

In the situation shared by the “good” white people during the slavery era and the civil rights movement of the 1960s, privilege was the ability to remain silent, be content, and simply walk away while others, the only difference being color of skin, continued to suffer.

 

The Crevasse of Fragility: White Privilege.

It is difficult for white people to talk about race.

“That which is fragile must be protected and defended regardless of the traumatic impact upon others.” – Dr. Micheal Kane

A crevasse refers to a deep hole within the earth. One can say that a crevasse exists in the relationships between whites and people of color. One characteristic of this deep hole is the weight of “privilege” being held by whites and how the privilege impacts these relationships.

When a person of color enters a room full of whites, that person is immediately scrutinized, held in suspicion, or seen as a curiosity.  Whites do not do the same to each other because, they are not raised to see other whites in terms of their race. White is the normal; all others merit curiosity at best, suspicion at worst.

Without recognizing they hold the privilege of whiteness, they have created the “innocence of spacing.”   This innocence creates the ability of white people to walk among people of color without recognizing general spaces as “white spaces”. It may be via this innocence that white people engage in actions and behaviors that are not intended to be racist and yet, are traumatically impactful to the person of color.

Let’s explore the following three examples, using these descriptive terms: (WP) white person and (POC) person of color, and (TI) looking at the possible traumatic impact.

 

Example #1: Get Out of My House 

POC and WP have a close friendship for many years.  While enjoying an activity at WP house, they get into a verbal tiff, the first over their many years of friendship. However, to POC’s surprise, WP orders POC to leave his residence.  POC pleads with WP about this action, but WP stands his ground.  POC leaves.  Several weeks later, WP invites POC to return to his home.

  • Question: Was WP being racist for ordering POC out of his home?

Answer: No.  It was WP’s home.  WP has the right to determine who can be in his home.

Traumatic Impact– POC viewed the ejection as a flashback of past experiences of being rejected from “white premises.”

  • Question: Will POC accept WP’s invitation to return to his residence?

Answer– Being that people of color have a repeated history of being rejected by whites, the POC assumed that, a history of friendship, that WP’s residence was a “safe place” and as a result of being ejected, that assumption was shaken.

Traumatic Impact -POC may now have conflicts, perhaps not about the friendship but about putting themselves at risk of being further traumatized by being ejected from the house again.

 

Example #2: The Status of being a N.O.T. (Novelty, Oddity and Token)

 POC is invited to a formal luncheon in a prestigious forum in which POC is the only non-white person in attendance. Following the event, as the guests are leaving, WP sitting next to him turns to POC and with a warm friendly smile, and says, “Thank you for coming, you represented well.”  POC is stunned, accepts the “compliment,” and smiles graciously while receiving another invitation for another formal engagement.

  • Question: Was WP’s compliment racist?

Answer: Yes. WP did not turn to the other five table guests and thank them for coming.  Nor did he tell the five white guests that they “represented well.”

Traumatic Impact: POC may be responding to the trauma of invisibility.  This occurs when one’s talents and abilities are not recognized.  He realized that he was being stereotyped as extraordinary and as “one of the good ones.”

  • Question: Will POC attend the formal engagement to which he was so “graciously” invited?

Answer: No.  Having been stunned by the truth as to his value as a N.O.T., the POC could find himself suddenly “unavailable” to attend the engagement.

Traumatic Impact: POC realizes that being observed and scrutinized and being “on show” is emotionally draining and psychologically overwhelming.

 

Example #3: The Anger Man

POC is engaging in a dialogue via email with WP with the intention of going on a date to further explore the relationship.  In the dialogue, the POC’s communications style is direct and the POC refers to something that WP said that was racially insensitive as being hurtful and triggered past experiences of racial trauma.  WP responds with an apology for “insulting” POC. Several days later WP emails POC stating the date is canceled due to the email encounter being intense and angry.

  • Question: Was WP being offensive to POC by assuming that POC was insulted by the racially insensitive remark?

Answer: No.  POC stated he was triggered and hurt.  He never indicated he was insulted. The POC sought to provide understanding so WP could be aware. The POC knew that hurting or triggering them was not the WP intent.

Traumatic Impact: POC was triggered by words and in seeking to advocate for himself is once again being viewed as the angry black man.  Communication on both sides will terminate due to the fear of perception and labeling.

  • Question: Is there a right or wrong in this situation?

Answer: No, it is the fear of being misperceived and mislabeled.  The reality is both parties are being misunderstood.

Traumatic Impact: Unfortunate, because of fear on both sides, what could had been, will never be.

 

Common Themes in the Examples 

  • There was no intention of WP to create traumatic impact.
  • The actions of WP triggered memories of unresolved trauma within POC.
  • POC may respond in a manner that is psychologically restrictive.

 

Possible Lessons Beneficial for White People 

  • Focus on the impact of the actions rather than your own intentions.
  • Direct and open communication between WP can be viewed as advocacy and assertiveness, not something negative. Allow and expect the same between POC and WP.
  • Novelties, oddities and tokens are to be observed in zoos, not at the dining table.

 

Concluding Remarks: Transforming White Fragility to Empowerment

The examples reflect microaggressions that happen daily to people of color.  Microaggressions are brief, common, and daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities. Whether intentional or unintentional, they communicate hostile, derogatory, negative or prejudicial slights and insults towards any group, particularly culturally, racially or ethnically marginalized people.

I recall a comment made to me by a well-respected white male professor 35 years ago who questioned a high grade I’d received on scholarly paper I had written.  He asked, “There is a rumor going around among the faculty that the female students are writing your research papers in exchange for sex.  Is it true?”

I was dumbfounded.  I was expecting praise and accolades for excellence and instead I was being insulted and questioned, as the only black male in the class, if I was sexually gratifying my fellow white female graduate students.

I bled that day; the traumatic wound was raw during my two years of graduate study.  Did this highly respected scholar intend to wound me?  No, but I was wounded, nonetheless. To me, by stating that there was a rumor going around the faculty about me, he caused me to question what exactly the faculty thought about me.

If questioned today, I am sure that faculty member and others who may have shared his opinions would deny their racism or the intent to harm.  However, the comment was racist and more importantly, regardless of the intention, the outcome and impact of the comment on me was never considered.

Harriet Tubman, in achieving her freedom standing at the line separating the slave state from the free state, remarked:

“I had crossed the line.  I was free; but there was no one to welcome me to the land of freedom.  I was a stranger in a strange land.”

I feel Harriet Tubman’s words stirring in my blood and spirit.  Harriet Tubman, the Black Moses of the enslaved, led the terrorized, traumatized and inhumanly mistreated to the “Promise Land” of freedom.  Amen!

However, she could not have accomplished her objectives without the help of white people and freed blacks that supported her cause.  I too have benefited from relationships with well-meaning and caring white people. The depth of my gratitude is countless, ranging from:

  • The female cafeteria worker who quietly fed free lunches to me, a scrawny colored kid in an all-white school, risking her employment.
  • The teacher’s aide who understood the importance of education and assisted me in obtaining my general education diploma before being discharged from the military.
  • The Associate Dean of the School of Social Work, Dr. Ted Teather, who patiently tolerated my immature student militancy and,
  • A fellow student, colleague and good friend who stood by me following the death of my beloved spouse

All of these individuals contributed to my success and life’s journey without asking for anything in return.

Although privilege is an unmerited right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular group, it comes as a responsibility that becomes a burden when the weight is balanced.

No longer can the privileged hide behind:

  • I pulled myself up by hard work
  • I did it on my own! No one ever gave me a damn thing
  • I sweated and earned my piece of the rock!
  • My ancestors didn’t own slaves!

 

What can White People do about White Privilege?

When instances of white privilege are clearly apparent, the ABC’s of Empowerment can bring relief to the physical, psychological and emotional self.

  • Advocacy-Speak to yourself, acknowledge your white privilege.
  • Balance-Psychologically step away and embrace your white privilege while weighing what you are thinking and feeling.
  • Calmness-While holding your psychological space, allow yourself to be centered and reflecting on ways to assist in the empowerment of others who do not hold the privilege.

“Just try new things. Don’t be afraid. Step out of your comfort zones and soar.”

-Michelle Obama

To those who choose to respond to white privilege and white fragility I say, it’s okay to be afraid.  Rather than be in fear, walk your landscape and in doing so, walk with your fear instead of living in it.

 

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Yesterday has passed, today is fading and the future has not been written.

Stay in the moment.

Experience the fullness of what life offers

today, letting go of today as you prepare for tomorrow.

-Dr. Micheal Kane

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You only are free when you realize you belong no place – you belong every place – no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.

-Maya Angelou

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Standing Alone…. The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: Slave Play and White Fragility

“The play shows the unconscious ways that white people take up space, that they don’t leave open for black people.”

-Jeremy O. Harris, playwright, Slave Play

“…[It’s] a whole bunch of stuff about how white people don’t get how racist they are.”

-Comments shouted by angered white woman to playwright Jeremy O. Harris during discussion session following play

“This isn’t about every white person.  This play is about eight specific people and if you don’t see yourself up here, that’s great, you aren’t one of them-you aren’t.  These are eight specific people that are in a play that is a metaphor for our country and therefore doesn’t represent every single person in it.”

-Jeremy O. Harris, playwright, (in response to the white woman’s criticism)

 

My Dear Readers,

As 2019 comes to an end, I would like you to join me in a recounting of my travels during the year. I’ve made two trips to Europe to research the psychological trauma experienced by African American soldiers fighting for democracy while under the command of white segregationist political and military leadership during World Wars I & II.

I also completed a 15,000-mile round trip journey to Ghana, West Africa where I stood at the Door of No Return at Elmina Castle.  It was through this narrow door that frightened and traumatized Africans were forced into the bellies of slave ships to be carted to the “New World” as human chattel.

Finally, I chose to do something very different and extraordinary to conclude the year. I took a 5,000-mile round trip excursion to see a Broadway play called Slave Play.

Slave Play, created by Jeremy O. Harris, boldly examines power, sex and history through the lens of three interracial relationships. In the play, Harris seeks to show how white people refuse to hear black people and how they don’t allow black people to work out the magnitude of their traumas in their presence.

Without giving too much away, the play depicts the lives of three interracial couples involved in a present-day therapy treatment program in which they act out their sexual dysfunction issues based on a treatment protocol known as Antebellum Sexual Performance Therapy (ASPT).  It is a radical role-play-based therapy intended to help black partners reengage intimately with white partners from whom they no longer receive sexual pleasure.

The scenes are set in the pre-Civil War South and move towards interactions set in the 21st Century.  They depict psychosexual power games between an enslaved black person and a white Southerner with provocative items such as bull whips being symbolically utilized during demonstrations of domination and submission.

During the first scene, there are three vignettes of seduction and copulation:

  • A female slave who seduces Massa Jim by throwing herself on the cabin floor and twerking.
  • A sexually frustrated Southern belle bounces seductively on her great big canopied bed and her very handsome servant has no choice but to service his lusty mistress.
  • A white indentured servant sexually gratifies his black overseer.

The ASPT concludes in the final act of the play with the three couples processing and talking through the experience. Though it is apparent that the therapy is supposed to focus on the black characters, the white characters wouldn’t shut up and allow them to process their thoughts. This demonstrates the playwright’s clear intent to show the failure of whites to receive information about the traumatic experiences that their black lovers so desperately want to share.

Unlike films of this genre, plays make the audience actively participating observers. The films usually focus on the white master or mistress’s inhumane treatment of humans whose only difference is the color of their skin.  Scenes of rape, brutality, violence, and unimaginable cruelty dominate and in doing so, often forces the psychological self of the white observer to retreat in horror, shame and, most importantly, denial of what is truth in American history.

The brilliance of Slave Play is that its focus is not on the physical torment of enslaved peoples but rather on encouraging the audience to listen to the psychological trauma that arises from those traumatized.

The play seeks to confront the past and yet also focus on the unhealed wounds of the present while not shying away from causing possible discomfort to its white audience. It is a willfully provocative and entertaining production.

 When White Discomfort Transforms into White Fragility

“This isn’t about every white person.  This play is about eight specific people and if you don’t see yourself up here, that’s great, you aren’t one of them-you aren’t.” 

-The words of Jeremy O. Harris, playwright, in response to numerous calls for the play’s removal from the theatrical stage.

During an interaction with the playwright, one white audience member angrily storms out the event, yelling that “I have undergone hardships ranging from rape to false arrest to single motherhood. How am I not marginalized?”

Is this woman and women like her marginalized? Given her statement, yes, she is. However, her words and actions reflect her inability to provide space for the expression of traumatic impact in the lives of others.  Her discomfort has now been publicity transformed into an example of “White Fragility”.

It would be a mistake to focus on the question “why are white people so fragile?”. Questions that lead with “why” are circular and distract from fully examining the foundation of the issue. With that in mind, let’s seek to answer the issues of white fragility utilizing the framework of “what”.

  • What is white fragility?
  • What is the foundation of white fragility?
  • What is the behavior of white fragility?
  • What is the expectation of white people towards people of color regarding white fragility?

What is white fragility?

White fragility is a form of aversive racism that encourages individuals to engage in interactions with people of color by overtly denying racist intent while acting in ways that feel racist to the person being impacted.

What is the foundation of white fragility?

White people are not raised to see themselves in terms of race or to see general spaces as “white spaces”.  Consequently, this insulation can render white people “innocent” of the concept of race.  It is this “innocence” that gives rise to white fragility.

What is the behavior of white fragility?

When the behavior is pointed out to the white person, the white person reacts, often negatively, to the concept that they are racist, and expects the person of color to be sensitive to their racial innocence, requiring the person of color to make them feel safe including:

  • A softer tone
  • Looking deeper for their intent
  • Disregard the impact of their actions
  • Never giving feedback again.

What is the expectation of white people towards people of color regarding white fragility?

People of color are expected to provide safe nurturing environments for white people, regardless of the psychological danger to themselves and if this is not provided, the person of color is regarded as unforgiving, unkind and oversensitive.

 

White Fragility and Insidious Trauma

People of color may develop feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness as they continue to be psychologically and emotionally impacted by white fragility.  This form of trauma is insidious due to its nature of constantly denigrating and demeaning the intelligence, skills, capacities, and the value of the lives of people of color.

Awareness of Reactions & Responses

Reactions to white fragility may create fight or flight responses which prepare the physical body, the intellectual mind, and the psychological self to react to danger.  However constant, repetitive triggering of these reactions also release hormones such as cortisol, which contribute to weight gain, heart damage, and other stress-related health issues.

 

Healing from White Fragility

When instances of white fragility arise, the ABC’s of Empowerment can bring relief to the physical, psychological and emotional self.

  • Advocacy– Speak up for yourself and don’t depend on others to do so on your behalf.
  • Balance– Psychologically step away and embrace your emotions while weighing what you’re feeling and thinking.
  • Calmness-While holding your psychological space, allow yourself to be centered as you deliver your external response.

 

Concluding Words

“White Fragility is the discomfort and defensiveness on the part of the white person when they are confronted by information about racial inequality and injustice.”

-Dr. Robin DiAngelo, author

My Dear Readers,

As I was exiting the play, I overheard the comments of two white males who’d also been in attendance. One asked the other “what did you think about the play?  The other individual responded, “It was interesting.”

Interesting.  Only interesting?  The question was a set up for denial of feelings.  Because the question did not focus on feelings i.e. “what did you feel about the play?” The person asking the question subsequently gave the respondent “a way out” from touching the foundation of his feelings.

This answer kept both the questioner and the respondent on the intellectual level and denied them, as well the white actors, the insight and willingness of exploring the foundation of the traumas being felt by black actors.

As I stood there absorbing the remark, I understood the benefit of traveling the 5,000 miles to allow the psychological self to experience a theatrical performance that provided the reality of psychological trauma of not only of those sold into bondage but also of those who continue to experience traumas 400 years later.

Sitting in that theater, if willing, one could conceptualize the commentary among buyers as they ignored the pleading cries of fellow humans held in bondage as they sold and bartered for them like cattle.  Interesting, indeed.

While it is true that white fragility is an insidious trauma injury to people of color, white people are not raised to see themselves in terms of race. This inability to see themselves in terms of race and consequently “innocent of race” does not prevent them from inflicting invasive and psychologically traumatic wounds that persist. So, claims of “my ancestors did not own slaves” does not absolve them of the guilt and shame of knowing that the white majority profited from slavery. Their denial of what is true only serves to reinforce their white fragility.

 

What can White People do about White Fragility? 

When instances of white fragility arise, the ABC’s of Empowerment can bring relief to the physical, psychological and emotional self.

  • Advocacy– Speak to yourself, acknowledge your white fragility and do so even when others refuse to do the same.
  • Balance-Psychologically step away and embrace your white fragility while weighing what you are feeling and thinking.
  • Calmness-While holding your psychological space, allow yourself to be centered as you deliver your external response and move forward to live the life you want and not the life you have.

New Possibilities

Life is a journey filled with new possibilities.

And sometimes because of the person you are, or have become, you find yourself in the right place at the right time for…

New possibilities

-Micheal Kane

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Because my mouth
Is wide with laughter
And my throat
Is deep with song,
You do not think
I suffer after
I have held my pain
So long?

Because my mouth
Is wide with laughter
You do not hear
My inner cry?
Because my feet
Are gay with dancing
You do not know
I die?”
― Langston Hughes

 

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“I, too, sing America.

I am the darker brother.
They send me to eat in the kitchen
When company comes,
But I laugh,
And eat well,
And grow strong.

Tomorrow,
I’ll be at the table
When company comes.
Nobody’ll dare
Say to me,
“Eat in the kitchen,”
Then.

Besides,
They’ll see how beautiful I am
And be ashamed–

I, too, am America.”
― Langston Hughes

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I will begin the New Year by returning to New York in January 2020 to see another Broadway production regarding the impact of trauma on African Americans.  This play, A Soldier Play, takes place on a Louisiana army base in 1944 where a black Sergeant is murdered and a black investigator must fight with his white leadership to find out the truth.

Blessings to all in the coming year!!

 

Standing Alone… The Unspoken Truth

The Unspoken Truth: Are You Living or Just Alive?

“The consequence of ethnic self-hatred for families is often that they become deeply divided on these issues.  Because ethnic identity and pride are developmental and ongoing throughout the life course, some families can become splintered over how ‘ethnic’ each family member is.  Sometimes, accusing a family member of being too ‘White’ is a smoke screen for jealousy or resentment towards a successful person but those accusations also reinforce feelings of invisibility.”

-E. Wyatt, “Beyond invisibility of African American males: The effects on women and families.” Counseling Psychologist 27(6) p.805

“Not all ethnic minorities are confronted on a daily basis with the threats of death or injury to their physical well-being.  In addition, the trauma and emotional abusiveness of racism is as likely to be due to chronic, systemic and invisible assaults on the personhoods of ethnic minorities as a single catastrophic event.”

-V. Sanchez-Hucles, “Racism: Emotional abusiveness and psychological trauma for ethnic minorities.” Journal of Emotional Abuse 1(2) p.72

“The message from the (black) community is simple: We will isolate you, we will shame you and most important, in times of desperation and need, we will abandon you.”

-Micheal Kane, The Unspoken Truth: The Real Black Man Standing Alone. (09.24.18)

“I stand alone.” ABC… Assertive, Boldness & Collective…. Empowered. I stand alone.”

-Dr. Micheal Kane, Psy.D. Clinical Traumatologist & Forensic Evaluator

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My Dear Readers,

The African-American diaspora refers to communities of people outside of the United States who are descended from people of African descent who were enslaved in the United States or the prior British colonies along the east coast of North America.

In previous writings, several points of inter-generational trauma experiences have been identified:

  • The tactics of forced aloneness (isolation), shaming, and abandonment are often used by members of the African American community to instill fear and enforce compliance and adherence to group norms.
  • The identified methods are “holdovers” of the tactics and methods used by slave traders and slave owners to terrorize, indoctrinate and traumatize newly captured African male and female slaves.
  • The learned tactics of forced aloneness (isolation), shaming and abandonment has psychologically impacted the way in which members of the community view the psychological self, interpersonal relationships and most importantly, interfamily and spousal relationships.

In the last writing, I spoke of the concept of “the divided world of the black man”.  Specifically:

“Simply put, if we divide the world of black men in half, there are those who are permanently disabled and therefore discarded by a hostile and non-caring society, and there are those who are walking wounded, working through the ongoing struggle to maintain sanity in a hostile and non-caring society. The first group is the walking dead, waiting for the end to appear, whereas the second group seeks to empower themselves and create a psychologically healthy life…but only if they are willing to grasp the opportunity.”

This week, we will further explore the concept of the “walking dead” and the “walking wounded.” We start with a young man’s pain and suffering.

Here is his story……….

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Dear Dr. Kane:

 Your last blog intrigued me.   Given what you said about the “Walking Dead,” I feel that it fits me.

 Like you, I too am a black man.  Unlike you, I do not love myself.  This shows as in being afraid and allowing others to define me rather than seeking to define myself. 

 I am in my late 20’s.  I am single and have a college degree.  My father is not in my life although we both live in the same community.  

 My mother told me that it was his suggestion to abort me.  The excuses I have heard from people around me is that my mother has prevented him from being in my life.  Now that I am an adult, however, he still refuses to interact with me.  I feel betrayed by him.

 People laugh at me for not being in the social norm.  They make me feel unwanted.  Because I am educated, people say that I speak “white” and call me “white boy.”

 When I am doing things that are not the social norms, I hide from others, not wanting them to find out.  I spend a lot of time alone drinking and smoking marijuana.  It’s relaxing, but nothing is changing for me.

 You wrote about black men being the “walking dead” and “walking wounded.” How come you did not include black women?  Don’t they go through the same issues that men do? 

 What do I want?  I want to define myself. I want to stop looking for handouts from others or depending on them to define me.  I want to live.  All I am doing now is hurting myself. 

 I am 29 years old.  My father has other children that he claims, but he does not claim me. I feel like I am dying.  Am I the walking dead?  Is there a way out for me?

 Questioning in Seattle

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My Dear Young Man,

Before I respond to the questions you have asked, I want you to know that your words have touched me.  You are a very special person.

I want to reach out to your psychological self and hope that within the traumatized and painful wounds you carry as a survivor, that you are open to listen; you now have an opportunity to live the life you want and not the life you live.

As I begin, I want to acknowledge and speak to three painful wounds that you carry.  In addition, I will clarify what I meant by the “Walking Dead” and the “Walking Wounded.”  Specifically, I will address:

  • The Wound of Betrayal Trauma
  • Responding to the Pain of Denial & Rejection
  • Appropriate Self Care in response to psychological pain

I want to leave you with words that will assist you as you move forward in the struggle we know as the journey of LIFE.

The Wound of Betrayal Trauma

My Dear Young Man,

I do not perceive your wounds as you have experienced them. I suggest you look at your wounds differently to help encourage healing and to reduce psychological pain.

Betrayal is the violation of implicit and explicit trust.  This can occur in many ways, including but not limited to:

  • Gaining trust with the intent to do harm or exposing allies to an enemy through treachery and disloyalty.
  • Being intentionally unfaithful or negligent in a relationship or guarding or maintaining information shared in confidence.
  • Intentionally revealing or disclosing information shared in confidence.

Betrayal trauma is distinct because to be successfully inflicted, an individual must have allowed the betrayer access to the psychological self’s three internal resources: belief, faith and trust.

As you can see, the only criterion for betrayal is “being intentionally unfaithful or negligent in a relationship.”  However, the standard is not met due to your father’s unwillingness to access your psychological self’s three internal resources: belief, faith and trust.

Does this mean that you are wrong in your feelings of pain and suffering?  No, of course not.   The focus here is merely to clarify the specific type of psychological wound.  In doing so, one can understand how best to develop a plan that will start healing.

There are 13 distinct traumas that can impact African-Americans daily.  Betrayal Trauma, due to its ability to access the psychological self’s three internal resources is, in my opinion, one of the most difficult psychological wounds to heal.

So, if it’s not betrayal trauma, what is it?

Responding to the Pain of Denial & Rejection

My Dear Young Man,

Humans, regardless of race, creed, gender, or sexual orientation, arrive into life with the basic desires and demands of acceptance, and validation.  Humans are social animals, so denial and rejection from the social group is even more emotionally painful because we are wired to want that acceptance.  Research shows that denial and rejection trigger the same brain pathways that are activated when humans experience physical pain.

Your story is full of the pain you have experienced by the rejection and denial of your father.  Your suffering continues to this very day as you seek validation and acceptance from your father and community.  As you continue this behavior, the psychological wounds deepen and the pain increases to where you start to seek external, and sometimes harmful, ways to minimize the pain.

Appropriate Self Care in Response to Psychological Pain

  • Advocacy, Balance & Calmness
  • Five Cs of Calmness

Using drugs and alcohol to dull your pain does not serve you. The wound will not heal and as time goes on, more drugs and more alcohol will be required to get the numbness you seek. When you do this, you are only treating the symptom of your wound, not addressing the root cause.  Seek to heal your wounds via utilizing the clinical concept of ABC i.e. advocacy, balance and calmness.  Specifically:

  • Advocacy– Acknowledge the denial and rejection. Seek self-validation, and in doing so, commit to healing the wounds of the psychological self.
  • Balance-Embrace your anger and depression—only you can understand its true meaning. Balance what you are feeling with what you are thinking.
  • Calmness-Understand that denial and rejection are the refusal to accept reality or fact of a painful event. Seek acceptance and in doing so achieve calmness in your internal world and external environment.

As I listen to your story, the error I see is that you continue to reach out to a person you call father, a person who is so trapped in his own denial that he simply refuses to experience it.  Furthermore, you compound your pain by reaching out and seeking acceptance from a community that does not love itself and therefore, is incapable of loving you or accepting your “difference.”

The calmness that you and other young people like you in similar situations require cannot be attained from those whose own  inter-generational trauma keeps them in the same situation you experience.

Standing Alone at the Crossroads

 Crossroads represent opportunities for the individual to create new realities as they move forth in the journey known as life.   During this journey of Self Discovery, the individual seeks self-empowerment and the reinforcing of the psychological self and is likely to do so without the benefit of a larger support group, such as their family, community or society.

The calmness that results from acceptance and validation can only be achieved from within the psychological self.  To assist with achieving calmness there is the clinical   model Five Cs of Calmness.  Specifically:

  • Contentment– An unruffled state under disturbing conditions. Here the individual seeks to bring their internal peace to the confusion and conflict in the external world.
  • Calculation– The individual cannot remain indefinitely at the crossroads. They must want to assess the impact of taking both paths.
  • Clarification-The individual must want to accept their feelings as normal. Free the psychological self from having to conform to what the larger group expects of you.
  • Cohesion-A direction is chosen and the individual finds connection with the psychological self.  The individual transforms the initial fear into an informed response.
  • Collective– The individual empowers the psychological self. Take notice of what has been from the experience at the crossroads.

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Concluding Words-Dr. Kane

My Dear Readers,

In the movie Gladiator, as Maximus prepares to go to battle in the arena, Proximo states:

“We are nothing but dust and shadows.  Dust and shadows.”

Proximo is correct.  As we come into life, we understand that one day we all must die.  However, for those willing to grasp the opportunity, one can choose to “live the life you want and not the life you live.”

The question is: how?

The Walking Wounded & the Walking Dead  

It is important to clarify what the makeup of both groups may look like. For example, although African-American women face similar challenges i.e. types of racism and traumatization as African-American men, there are differences in how this group is perceived externally outside their community and internally within their community.

Despite inter-generational and historical traumatization, African-American women have developed support networks and emotional foundations by networking, sharing resources and communicating intimate and sensitive information to assist through difficult as well as desperate times.  On the other hand, African-African men, due to societal norms associated with masculinity and maleness, have not been able to develop consistency in these areas or pass such norms and resources intergenerationally.

The Walking Wounded & The Sad Sista Club

In the previous blog, in writing about the Walking Wounded, I stated the following:

 “… if we divide the world of black men in half, there are those who are permanently disabled and therefore discarded by a hostile and non-caring society, and there are those who are walking wounded, working through the ongoing struggle to maintain sanity in a hostile and non-caring society.”

The same can be stated regarding black women.  However, the difference is that black men lack the openness of connection that black women have created—a connection that serves as a protective layer for individuals in the ongoing struggle to maintain sanity not only in a hostile and non-caring society, but also in responding to terse interactions with black men.

Whereas such men are designated the “Walking Wounded” as they struggle individually to maintain sanity within a hostile and non-caring society, black women due to their collective sharing, are designated as the “Sad Sista Club”.  The common themes of both genders are the basic forms of existence and survival that only serve to reinforce the lack of empowerment within the psychological self.

In the previous blog, in differing between the Walking Dead and the Walking Wounded, I stated the following:

“The first group are the walking dead, waiting for the end to appear, whereas the second group seeks to empower themselves and create a psychologically healthy life…but only if they are willing to grasp the opportunity.”

One way of seeking psychological wellness to be aware of the possible stages that can impact the journey of life.  I call these the “Five Levels of The Journey of Self Discovery.”

  • Existing– The journey is bleak and lifeless for the individual. Life is barely lived, let alone enjoyed or even really experienced.  Nothing is produced or gained by the individual at this level.
  • Surviving-The focus of the journey is to remain alive and breathing. The individual attaches minimally to life, lives in fear and is in a constant state of desperation.  There is a little gain, but not much for the individual at this level.
  • DrivingAt this level, the search for empowerment begins. The individual wanders, seeking direction and in doing so, learns balance and reinforces the psychological self.  At this level, the individual learns the meaning and importance of empowerment.
  • Striving-At this level, the individual has a solid hold on their life, and is fully experiencing their psychological self. The individual lives with their fear and is successfully implementing empowerment strategies in their lives.
  • Thriving-The individual has attained full realization of the psychological self and completed the Journey of Self-Discovery. The individual has mastered their self-empowerment strategies and can use this knowledge to support others and as a foundation for future journeys.

Questioning in Seattle is not a member of the Walking Dead—however, he is at the stage of survival, which carries its own risks. Should he continue on the same downside spiral with alcohol and drugs, he is certain to hit bottom, and therefore, become a member of this permanently disabled group.

However, he does have the option to empower himself and create a psychologically healthy life, but only if he is willing to grasp the opportunity to progress through the levels of the Journey of Self-Discovery.

As you began your own Journey of Self-Discovery, consider the following:

  • What am I doing to improve better/improve my life, my community and my surroundings?
  • Am I connected to my psychological self? Do I seek to advocate for self and seek balance within and calmness in my external environment?
  • How am I seeking to motivate, uplift or impact positive outcomes with family, friends and community?

“One thing is certain in life…. We will all die one day. Thus, the focus must be on those we touch, how we live and what we experience.”

-Dr. Micheal Kane

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Searching for meaning is like drawing

Etching for life.

Asking for direction can bring

Breath for tomorrow

Risk taking has its challenges

Earnings another opportunity to

Endure which brings wisdom

Zest is what life is about

Explore the Journey of Self-Discovery

-Dr. Micheal Kane

 

Standing Alone….. The Unspoken Truth